"Allah 
probably hates me. I am so bad; I always mess up. I don't deserve any good from Allah , and as punishment, I probably will not be given success in my other endeavors."
How
many people have felt this way at some point? Sometimes, our sins weigh
heavily on us. We recognize our mistakes but instead of turning back to
Allah ,
we turn away. We feel that we must be so bad that even the All-Merciful
will reject us. Other times, we do not see the fruits of our
perseverance and believe that we will not be given what we have worked
so hard for. Perhaps we do not even begin an endeavor, thinking there is
no use.
Unfortunately, when we do this, we attribute human qualities to Allah . We act as if Allah has some grudge against us that will heal as soon as He punishes us or rejects one of our requests. We act as though Allah is
just waiting for us to slip up and say "Ha! Caught you!" We assume that
we have to "deserve" the mercy of Allah by being almost perfect. This
sounds absurd when articulated, but our actions unfortunately indicate
that we believe otherwise.
What
does this thought process actually tell us about ourselves? It tells us
that we did not really have hope in Him to begin with. Rather, our hope
was in what we believed to be our own good deeds or abilities. Once we
slip up or feel that we do not have the strength to continue, we do not
think well enough of Allah to believe that He will guide us through. We must understand that when we think well of Allah, that is what we will find.
Think well of Allah when embarking on something difficult, even if you fail
"Allah probably hates me. I am so bad; I always mess up. I don't deserve any good from Allah , and as punishment, I probably will not be given success in my other endeavors."
probably hates me. I am so bad; I always mess up. I don't deserve any good from Allah , and as punishment, I probably will not be given success in my other endeavors."
How
many people have felt this way at some point? Sometimes, our sins weigh
heavily on us. We recognize our mistakes but instead of turning back to
Allah ,
we turn away. We feel that we must be so bad that even the All-Merciful
will reject us. Other times, we do not see the fruits of our
perseverance and believe that we will not be given what we have worked
so hard for. Perhaps we do not even begin an endeavor, thinking there is
no use.
,
we turn away. We feel that we must be so bad that even the All-Merciful
will reject us. Other times, we do not see the fruits of our
perseverance and believe that we will not be given what we have worked
so hard for. Perhaps we do not even begin an endeavor, thinking there is
no use.
Unfortunately, when we do this, we attribute human qualities to Allah . We act as if Allah has some grudge against us that will heal as soon as He punishes us or rejects one of our requests. We act as though Allah is
just waiting for us to slip up and say "Ha! Caught you!" We assume that
we have to "deserve" the mercy of Allah by being almost perfect. This
sounds absurd when articulated, but our actions unfortunately indicate
that we believe otherwise.
. We act as if Allah has some grudge against us that will heal as soon as He punishes us or rejects one of our requests. We act as though Allah is
just waiting for us to slip up and say "Ha! Caught you!" We assume that
we have to "deserve" the mercy of Allah by being almost perfect. This
sounds absurd when articulated, but our actions unfortunately indicate
that we believe otherwise.
What
does this thought process actually tell us about ourselves? It tells us
that we did not really have hope in Him to begin with. Rather, our hope
was in what we believed to be our own good deeds or abilities. Once we
slip up or feel that we do not have the strength to continue, we do not
think well enough of Allah to believe that He will guide us through. We must understand that when we think well of Allah, that is what we will find.
to believe that He will guide us through. We must understand that when we think well of Allah, that is what we will find.
Think well of Allah when embarking on something difficult, even if you fail
when embarking on something difficult, even if you fail
"I am as My servant's opinion of Me." (Bukhari)
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When the most beloved person to Allah , the Prophet 
,
was thinking of migrating to Madina, he started talking to all of the
different tribes that came for Hajj in the hopes that one of them would
accept Islam or at least offer the believers protection. He spoke to
twenty-six different tribes and was rejected by all of them. Some of the
tribes even cursed and mocked him. Let's stop here. He made da`wah (calling to Islam) to twenty-six tribes.
Can you imagine the feeling of being rejected by five? What would
happen after ten rejected you? How low would your morale be? When would
you have given up?
, the Prophet ,
was thinking of migrating to Madina, he started talking to all of the
different tribes that came for Hajj in the hopes that one of them would
accept Islam or at least offer the believers protection. He spoke to
twenty-six different tribes and was rejected by all of them. Some of the
tribes even cursed and mocked him. Let's stop here. He made da`wah (calling to Islam) to twenty-six tribes.
Can you imagine the feeling of being rejected by five? What would
happen after ten rejected you? How low would your morale be? When would
you have given up?
Finally, he met a few youth from Madina who believed in his message. He did not despair because he had a good opinion of Allah , which motivated him; he knew Allah would not leave him .
met a few youth from Madina who believed in his message. He did not despair because he had a good opinion of Allah , which motivated him; he knew Allah would not leave him .
Many
people give up in the face of something seemingly impossible.
Sometimes, we give up on an individual level: getting married, getting
that job we want; sometimes it is on a global level, such as injustice
in the Muslim world. But as we read in Sr. Yasmin's amazing article, the point of the struggle is to realize who is in charge.
It is Allah . Allah has
told us that He is as His servant's think of Him. If we think well,
then that is what we will find. If we do not, then that is what we will
find. Your opinion should be that Allah is so Merciful that He will come to your aid.
. Allah has
told us that He is as His servant's think of Him. If we think well,
then that is what we will find. If we do not, then that is what we will
find. Your opinion should be that Allah is so Merciful that He will come to your aid.
What happens when we are faced with failure? When one does not get something, even if their intention was for the sake of Allah , they should not feel disheartened. You have a good opinion of Allah ;
"failure" is just a minor setback. You need to be tested to strengthen
your resolve. If you do not get that amazing job you want, know that
Allah has saved something better for you. Only He knows what is best for you.
, they should not feel disheartened. You have a good opinion of Allah ;
"failure" is just a minor setback. You need to be tested to strengthen
your resolve. If you do not get that amazing job you want, know that
Allah has saved something better for you. Only He knows what is best for you.
Think well of Allah when you sin
What
about when we constantly slip-up and cannot leave a certain sin? For
some of us, this makes us give up on ourselves; we believe we don't
deserve any good from Allah. We have to remember that Allah is
al-Wadud (the Most Loving). His Mercy overcomes His blame. It is not
about deserving. If you thank Allah, He gives you more. It is not
because we deserve more, it is because Allah is that Great. He is that
Generous. Shaytan (the devil) makes us focus on how bad we are in order
that we despair of Allah's mercy, when the Prophet taught
us: "All the children of Adam constantly err, but the best of those who
constantly err are those who constantly repent." [Tirmidhi]
is
al-Wadud (the Most Loving). His Mercy overcomes His blame. It is not
about deserving. If you thank Allah, He gives you more. It is not
because we deserve more, it is because Allah is that Great. He is that
Generous. Shaytan (the devil) makes us focus on how bad we are in order
that we despair of Allah's mercy, when the Prophet taught
us: "All the children of Adam constantly err, but the best of those who
constantly err are those who constantly repent." [Tirmidhi]
The Prophet said that "One of the signs of excellence of one's worship is thinking well of Allah ."
[Ahmad] This does not mean that we should not reflect on our state.
Al-Hasan al-Basri said "A true believer is one who thinks well of Allah and therefore does good, whereas the disobedient one thinks bad of Allah and
therefore does bad." If we think well of Allah, no matter how bad we
are, we also have hope that we can be better and thus we strive to do
good deeds. If we think badly of Allah, we assume that He will never
forgive us nor can He make us better; so we continue to sin. However, we
should not make a mockery of this concept and deliberately sin,
thinking Allah will
forgive us anyway. One of the key principles of repentance is regret.
If we do not truly regret the sin, and simply ask for forgiveness to
have that sin erased, we are paying lip service. Remember, "You will
only get what you intend." [Bukhari]
said that "One of the signs of excellence of one's worship is thinking well of Allah ."
[Ahmad] This does not mean that we should not reflect on our state.
Al-Hasan al-Basri said "A true believer is one who thinks well of Allah and therefore does good, whereas the disobedient one thinks bad of Allah and
therefore does bad." If we think well of Allah, no matter how bad we
are, we also have hope that we can be better and thus we strive to do
good deeds. If we think badly of Allah, we assume that He will never
forgive us nor can He make us better; so we continue to sin. However, we
should not make a mockery of this concept and deliberately sin,
thinking Allah will
forgive us anyway. One of the key principles of repentance is regret.
If we do not truly regret the sin, and simply ask for forgiveness to
have that sin erased, we are paying lip service. Remember, "You will
only get what you intend." [Bukhari]
When we do wrong, let us feel guilty, but let us also flee to Allah . Have a good opinion of Allah .
If you are sincere, He will forgive you. He is that forgiving. He is
that Great. He is that Magnanimous. Even when we commit the same sin
again and again and again, our good opinion of Allah should
let us know that as long as we constantly strive against our nafs
(lower self) and against that part of us that wants to indulge in that
sin, we have already been forgiven. At the end of the day, it is shaytan
who wants us to go to hell, not Allah. Allah tells us in the Qur'an:
. Have a good opinion of Allah .
If you are sincere, He will forgive you. He is that forgiving. He is
that Great. He is that Magnanimous. Even when we commit the same sin
again and again and again, our good opinion of Allah should
let us know that as long as we constantly strive against our nafs
(lower self) and against that part of us that wants to indulge in that
sin, we have already been forgiven. At the end of the day, it is shaytan
who wants us to go to hell, not Allah. Allah tells us in the Qur'an:
Shaytan
does not just want you to go to hell, but also wants to ensure you live
in hell in this world. Just like he despaired, he wants you to despair.
Our good opinion of Allah
should never allow us to do that. Allah wants
to accept your repentance, because your repenting is recognition of His
Name al-Ghaffar (the One who constantly forgives).
Just as the Prophet
told us that Allah is too gracious to turn away the hand that asks Him , He is also too Merciful to disappoint you and your good opinion of Him.
Think well of Allah
when you are tested
Tests come to us in a myriad of ways. We have already discussed why tests happen in a previous post, so I will not discuss it too much here. We should just know that thinking well of Allah
should make us look beyond the test. This test is something from Allah ,
and He wants to teach us, to purify us from sin, to strengthen us, and
to bring us closer to Him. We do not have a cruel God; our God is the
Most Merciful of those who show Mercy. When we approach our tests with
that frame of mind, we cannot but gain from our experience, insha'Allah.
So what does it mean to think well of Allah
?
It
means to take that step. When we mess up, even if we messed up in a
major way, we return to Him. We return to Him recognizing that what we
did was truly horrible, but we ask for His forgiveness because we know
He is that forgiving, and that His Mercy encompasses everything. When we
mess up again and again, and feel sick of ourselves, we return to Him
with a sincere du'a (supplication) to help us stop, knowing that He will
respond. It means having grand hopes and aspirations, and working
towards them knowing that Allah
"will not allow to be lost the reward of any who did well in deeds." (Qur'an, 18:30) |
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